“Facing it, always facing it, that’s the way to get through. Face it.”― Joseph Conrad
‘Change your thoughts and you change your World’, – Norman Vincent Peale
A book that has helped me to change my thoughts and work on new ways to take on the world is ‘The Obstacle is the Way’, by Ryan Holiday (Amazon US/GB). Based on the philosophy of stoicism, the book draws on the writings of the Greek philosophers including Seneca and Epictetus and applied to modern day examples including sport and business.
For example, there is a chapter on altering your perspective, describing how fear can be debilitating, distracting and irrational. But if you break down fear, you make it smaller and less significant. I thought I’d lose all my friends when I gave up drinking. In fact, I didn’t, but I also gained a lot more non-drinking friends.
Others chapters look at sports achievements made because they focused on the things they could change and influence, whilst blotting out everything that they had absolutely no control over.
It’s one of my recommended books, especially if you’re serious about changing your outlook and making a new life.
Peale was an American author and minister and wrote the book, ‘The Power of Positive Thinking’.
“My battles with addiction definitely shaped how I am now. They really made me deeply appreciate human contact. And the value of friends and family, how precious that is.”― Robin Williams
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain
I finally broke free from binge drinking in 2006, a whole 15 years after I realised drink was my downfall. For a whole host of reasons, I tried to stop but couldn’t and this quote by Mark Twain is so true. I’m happy that i finally stopped, but would have loved to have stopped long before!
“Getting sober just exploded my life. Now I have a much clearer sense of myself and what I can and can’t do. I am more successful than I have ever been.”― Jamie Lee Curtis
Giving up drink is a hardship from day one. You feel like you’re missing out not being with your friends, feel that you’re missing out on having fun.
But taking a day at a time you learn to get through it, and the hardship you suffer will add dimensions to your character.
Go forth and find this extraordinary destiny, today!
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.'” Eleanor Roosevelt